Okay, so now you are wondering how to be more likable. ✨
Well, first things first, congrats to you as this is definitely the right step to take! 🎉
It’s just a fact that the more likable you are, the easier life is. 💫
Research has found that where backgrounds and skills of job candidates are similar, the person seen as more likable gets hired almost 90% of the time! 🤯
So yeah, whether you like it or not, being likable is actually a crucial skillset worth mastering! ❤️
That said, being likable isn’t actually rocket science! ✨
It’s totally learnable—like a skill you can level up in. 💖
Whether you’re trying to crush it at work, make new friends, or just stop feeling awkward at parties (we’ve all been there), a few simple tweaks to how you interact can literlly change EVERYTHING. ✨
Ahead, I’ve gathered 10 tips on how to be more likable, based on scientific research. 💕
I’m sure they’ll help as I’ve implemented all these tips in my daily life and they work wonders! ✨💫
1. Actually listen when people talk
I know it seems a given, but like, REALLY listen!
Don’t just mindlessly stare at someone, pretend be engaged, but actually in your head you just wait for your turn to speak.
Trust me, people can spot that quickly.
When you show genuine interest, people literally can’t help but like you more.
Cause at the end of the day, the most interesting topic someone wanna talk is always themselves.
Self-disclosure can be very gratifying.
Source: Psychology Today: Why We Love Talking About Ourselves
2. Use people’s names more often
It’s not just a trick; it’s again scientifically proven!
Our brains literally light up when we hear our own name.
Dale Carnegie was right about this one!
Remembering a name can quickly create a positive first impression and make someone feel more comfortable, valued and open to interacting with you.
“A person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language”. – Dale Carnegie
At the end of the day, people just want to be seen.
National Libaray of Medicine: Brain Activation When Hearing One’s Own and Others’ Names
3. Mirror body language (but be subtle about it).
We naturally vibe with people who match our energy.
Just don’t make it weird!
Source: Journal of Nonverbal Behavior explains why this works
4. Don’t be afraid to be a little vulnerable.
Perfect people are intimidating and fake.
Showing you’re human actually makes people like you more.
5. The “Duchenne smile”
Have you ever encountered someone that appear to be so warm and friendly but you somehow just feel like the vibe is “off” even you can’t pinpoint it?
Well, there’s a possibility that someone is fake smiling!
The truth is, you thought you nail it but actually everyone in the room can tell you are fake smiling.
A true smile, also known as a Duchenne smile will naturally engages more facial muscles, specially around the eyebrows and eyes area.
An easy to way to tell is by crinkles or “crow’s feet” at the corners of the eyes.
On the other side, if you fake smile, you just gives off a weird feeling to others as your facial expression is just not right.
We, as human being, subconsciously just hate fake people.
So if you really want to engage with someone but don’t feel like you wanna laugh, nod instead!
6. Let’s admit we all love good-looking things…
I know it may seem harsh, but we must face the truth: your face can influence your fate.
It’s simply reality, my love.
According to British research, when someone sees an attractive face, their brain’s “reward center” literally lights up. We’re naturally drawn to beauty—it’s hardwired into us.
Source: Medical Daily – Seeing pretty faces rewards brain with chemical reactions
Everyone appreciates aesthetic appeal, which is why taking care of your appearance matters in social interactions.
While we can’t drastically change our facial features, we can always present ourselves as neat, tidy, and well-groomed—qualities that significantly boost our likability.
Personally, I focus on how I dress, and let me tell you—clothing choices truly transform how people respond to you. Humans instinctively value quality and presentation.
When you dress well, others subconsciously categorize you as someone of higher value and treat you accordingly (even if they don’t consciously realize it!).
So remember—dress how you wish to be addressed!
If you are reading this blog post till now, there’s one thing for sure…
You have good taste! <3 If you approve of some of these looks, please kindly pin or share some of these outfits so many tasteful fashion babes can come across this outfit inspo, thanks pretty! ❤️
And…it would truly mean the world to me if you stay until the very end. ❤️
7. Emotional relatability is key
People naturally gravitate toward those who truly understand themselves, as this fulfills our deepest desire to feel seen and validated.
If you cultivate compassion and regularly put yourself in others’ shoes, you’ll notice more people reaching out and opening up to you. This genuine connection is powerful.
From my experience, when someone shares something upsetting, the most comforting response is simply, “I feel you.”
These three magic words create a safe space where the other person knows you embrace their perspective without judgment.
It’s validation in its purest form.
The worst response?
“This isn’t that bad—think on the bright side!”
Such dismissive positivity actually invalidates people’s genuine emotions and experiences.
Remember: acknowledging someone’s feelings doesn’t mean you agree with everything they say—it shows you respect their emotional reality.
8. The “Benjamin Franklin Effect”
This seems counter-intuitive but try ask for small favors!
When someone does something for you, they subconsciously justify it by deciding they must like you.
This works better than doing favors for others – human brains are amazing isn’t it ?!
9. The “Peak-End Rule”
If you think the longer the date, the more emotionally invested your crush will be towards you, well, think again.
The timing of how the date ends matter!
People remember interactions by their emotional peak and how they ended.
End conversations on a positive note, and create one memorable positive moment.
10. Proximity Psychology
When we view someone stories consistently, we just feel like we know someone so well like an old friend even though we haven’t met in real life.
Now that’s the proximity psychology taking effect!
Regular, brief interactions build familiarity and liking over time.
Simply being consistently present in someone’s environment makes you more likable through the “mere exposure effect.
FINAL THOUGHTS:
So there you go my loves – the 10 tips if you are wondering how to be more likable.
Thoughts on that? I hope that get you inspired and it’s time to implement all these tips into real life and see how things go! <3
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